How can we help combat our guilty feelings, and accept them when they’re important, but let them go more easily when they’re not?
1. Recognizing the kind of guilt you are experiencing and its purpose
Guilt can come from all sorts of reasons so it is important to realize what is causing the specific guilt you are feeling. Once you have realized the cause, then you can change the behavior that is causing it. We can still choose to ignore our guilt then, but then we do so at our own risk. This is known as “healthy” or “appropriate” guilt because it serves a purpose in trying to help redirect our moral or behavioral compass.
When moving your loved one into assisted living, it is easy to feel guilty because you feel you have given up on caring for them. This is not the case. You have chosen to go the extra mile to make sure that your loved one is getting the proper care that they need at that time of their life. You are still able to care for that loved one but you will have a relationship of mom/dad and child instead of being their caregiver.
2. Accept your guilt and move on from it
Ongoing guilt will weigh us down as we try and move forward in life, which makes it a lot harder to overcome our guilt. Healthy guilt encourages us to do something different in order to repair relationships that are important to us. While sometimes we already know the lesson that guilt is trying to teach us, it will return time and time again until we’ve actually learned the lesson fully. It can be frustrating, but it seems to be the way guilt works for most people. The sooner we “learn the lesson” the sooner the guilt will disappear. If successful, it will never return for that issue again.
If youfeel like you did something wrong or hurtful, accepting that you cannot change the past will allow you to start overcoming your guilt. Recognizing the problem behavior and taking action sooner rather than later, will help you feel better about things and the guilt will be alleviated.
3. Learning from our behaviors
Guilt’s purpose isn’t to make us feel bad just for the sake of it. The feeling of guilt is trying to get our attention so that we can learn something from the experience. If we learn from our behavior, we’ll be less likely to do it again in the future. We need to accept that perfection does not exists and everyone experiences guilt. Striving for perfection in any part of our lives is a recipe for failure, since it can never be attained. If you take a moment to really focus on the positive and not dwell on the negative then you will have a guilt free life.
Take these simple steps to overcome any guilt that you have been feeling. By getting rid of your hard feelings, you will be able to see the happiness in life and be able to cherish happy memories. If you would like to read more about dealing with guilt when moving your loved one to assisted living click on the link.
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