Recognizing The Stress Of Being A Caregiver
In 2014, more than 2.4 million older people lived in a household with a grandchild present. Many of these were with sons or daughters who had their own children. But even if your kids are grown or you never had kids, the sheer feeling of being responsible for someone who was such a pivotal part of your life as a child can be scary.
Understanding The Burdens Seniors Face As They Age
Seniors are burdened with many of the problems that younger relatives live with, including the need to be appreciated, the desire to fit in and the wish to stay healthy and mobile. Unfortunately, for some seniors, this can be a losing battle, particularly in the area of health and mobility. Even a healthy senior is at risk for depression as it becomes harder to get around and friends their age fall ill. Even more so, NursingHomeLegalNY.com indicates that majority of seniors in nursing homes especially suffer from depression. For caregivers it can be hard to watch as your strong relative becomes irritable, depressed and sometimes hard to contend with.
The Financial Costs Associated With Aging
Aside from the standard aging issues you'll encounter with your aging loved one, it is likely that you are also paying out of pocket for much of your senior relative's care. An article published by U.S. News reports that the typical senior will have to set aside more than $100,000 in their savings in order to pay for all their medical costs after retirement. This includes the cost of prescriptions and the Medicare A,B, and D deductibles and co-pays. Most seniors bring little more than a thousand dollars a month from Social Security, which would not even touch the average cost of living in the United States. What does this mean for you as a caretaker? It means you will likely skimp on your own personal expenses in order to keep your loved one happy and healthy. While this is noble and helpful, it is also putting more stress on an already stressful situation.
How to Recognize When You Are At Your Limit
If you have been taking care of an elder relative for some time, you may have noticed yourself changing from a once patient and active person to someone who comes home on a daily basis to take care of the needs of children and parent. After so much time of ignoring your own needs and spending money to keep the household running smoothly for everyone who lives there, you will find yourself fatigued and constantly fighting nerves. If you notice any of the following symptoms of over-fatigue and stress, you may need to reconsider your living arrangements:
You are always tired, and it is becoming harder to wake up feeling refreshed in the morning
You are falling behind on your bills
You don't want to be around your senior relative or are always nervous when they're around
You are running late for work or miss out on your kid'sfunctions a lot
You are regularly calling an ambulance because you don't know how to deal with your loved one's medical emergencies
Taking care of a senior loved one is usually a rewarding and enjoyable experience, as you have the time with your parent or relative and so do your kids. However, there can come a time when your loved one faces mental or medical challenges that you cannot handle on your own. Knowing when to recognize your need for help and acting on it will make everyone happier over the long term.
Author Bio: Laurence Banville, Esquire
Laurence Banville is the managing partner of Banville Law with a reputation for thorough preparation and a balanced approach to his clients. He is a down-to earth bright young attorney who has been honored with the Top 40 under 40 award. This recognition is given to the top 40 ranked attorneys across the United States who are under 40 years of age. He represents plaintiffs and in particular of nursing home abuse.
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