Understanding Guilt

Posted by Marissa Barnard on May 5, 2016

In Assisted Living, Main



 Family is where life begins and love never ends.

The love we have for our family fuels the need to take care of each other. Mothers take care of children, fathers take of the family, grandparents take care of grand kids, and the list goes on. There are so many examples in history where families have taken care of each other in sickness and in health and we continue today to care for our families. We may be caring for our children, spouse, siblings or elderly loved ones. Caring for anyone can be a great responsibility, each carry their own challenges because everyone is in a different stage of their lives.

Here at Bel Aire Senior Living we help families care for their elderly loved ones. We know the ups and downs you face, the challenges, and the responsibilities. We focus on making a home where one can live comfortably and receive the medical attention they need. 24/7 medication management, a cook, housekeeping and activities are just some of the services we provide for our residents. Though many assisted living centers, along with Bel Aire Senior Living, have great amenities families can still be hesitant to move their families’ members in. Why?

Because they are dealing with GUILT

Having guilt is okay it is a normal emotion to have, but sometimes it can affect a decision that is very important to either yourself or your loved one. You need to understand what guilt is and why we are feeling it in order to overcome it and move on. 

Understanding guilt and why you feel it is the first step to overcoming it.

Guilt is placed in the top reasons why family members are so hesitant to move their elderly loved ones into assisted living. This guilt comes from the love you have for your family which in turns fuels the need to take care of them. When family members are hesitant to move in their elderly loved ones they tell us one of the following reason: one they feel responsible to take care of them, two if they move them in then they have failed as their children, or three they look back on what their ancestors have done and see that they haves always cared for their aging loved ones. So guilt has a heavy influence on the answer.

The second step is knowing how to move on from it.

You need to decide to focus on the small victories, focus on what you are doing right. You’re loving your elderly loved one by considering senior living. Right there you have taken your first step to making a happier and healthier life in which your loved one can thrive. Yes, you can take care of their needs, but when it gets to the point where you become their “nurse” and not their family member, then that is when you need to reconsider where everything stands. You need to get the family relationship back.

The feeling of guilt is trying to get your attention so you can learn something from the experience.

Third and final is knowing how to make the decision and moving on from the guilt.

How to make the decision is a little different for everyone. Some ways our residents and their families have come to the conclusion of moving into senior living is by taking tours, asking questions, educating themselves on exactly what assisted living is and some even spent the night to really get a feel of where they are moving into. When researching and touring you should Included your loved one in on the decision, this can help empower them and make them feel in control of their lives and can help you feel more secure in the decision making process.


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Time spent with family is worth every second, so make sure you are spending that time as a family and not as a caregiver.

Make a consultation with us to better understand assisted living and the benefits of stepping out of the caregiver role and back into the family role.

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